By Lavern Nissley
Encompass Executive Director
The term "new" sparks different responses, doesn't it? For some, "new" is associated with a freshly purchased item that is going to make life soooo very much better. For others, "new" is something that requires major adapting to yet another change. Which are you? And how can you best navigate the two sides of new?
Our most recent grandchild, Sebastian Nissley (Seb), was born July 29, 2022. Last week our immediate family of children and their spouses got to spend a lot of quality time together, and much of it surrounded experiencing this new little Nissley. What fun to interact with him and see his responsive smiles and gurgles! New is good!
But Seb also brought a whole array of adjustments, first to his parents as well as his two older sisters. He cries, he soils his diaper, he spits up, he gets sick, and he requires a lot of supervision. New is tough!
The fact is that new can be good and challenging at the same time. Embrace the good and accept the challenging.
The new year of 2023 is an opportunity to begin or welcome new elements into our lives and relationships, realizing that there is something good and refreshing about having a brand new blank slate. But things can also go horribly wrong.
My Mom called me at 7 am on Sunday, January 1 feeling really, really bad. A quick check of her vitals revealed oxygen levels ranging in the 70's and 80's. Not good! So she started the new year on a stretcher that took her by emergency transport to Springfield Regional Medical Center. Embrace the good and accept the challenging.
I'm very grateful for experienced medical staff that responded to Mom in a way that protected her life and gave her a chance at turning 90 this Thursday! But we're also entering a challenging time of fine-tuning plans for Mom's remaining time here with us.
Seb and Edna (my Mom) are at two different ends of life. I'm choosing to embrace the good and accept the challenging for both of them.
What's new in your life?
Lavern & Ronda Nissley are co-directors of Encompass. Married since 1978, both enjoy coffee, riding their tandem bicycle and working together to build strong relationships.