By Heidi Biswas
(Dave and Heidi are fairly new residents in Springfield, Ohio, with Dave joining our Encompass team in January, 2019 as Outreach Coordinator. You'll get an interesting and inspiring glimpse into their process of selecting wedding attire and atmosphere.)
So we got married in our pajamas. It took me a little while to figure out that this was what I wanted.
At the time of being engaged I didn’t know I had felt an expectation of how I was supposed to get married. The dress, the venue, the decorations, the guest list - I knew it wasn’t what I wanted, but that’s just how weddings are, and I felt some unspoken pressure that that was how it had to be, or I’d be letting people down.
In preparation for the wedding, my sister and my mother would show me pictures of beautiful decorations and plates and dresses and ask which ones I liked best, but I remember not being able to answer very well.
By Cindee Johnson
(Cindee is pastor of Fletcher United Methodist Church and an avid supporter of Encompass, along with her husband, Dave. They just celebrated their 30th anniversary and saw a dream of theirs fulfilled last week that goes back to a 2009 marriage enrichment experience.)
Some day. When dating and first married, Dave and I could talk long into the night about our hopes and plans for the future. Yet as time marched on, those dreams faded into the background, and some day was replaced by the immediate demands of careers and family and, well, just the challenges of life in general.
By Lavern Nissley
Dave King, a friend and colleague from 30 years ago in Cincinnati, died at age 55 last week. The text notification from another friend hit me hard. "No, no, no!" I had just been thinking of calling him and getting together. But he had collapsed while working out and couldn't be revived.
Several of us who worked together with Dave in the 1980's at New Beginnings Fellowship, a small suburban church in Finneytown/Cincinnati, attended his funeral Saturday. What a surreal experience to see such a close friend laying in a casket! But there was unexpected inspiration in this funeral from Dave's two children, Matthew and Erin.
By Lavern Nissley
I've never been a fan of the saying, "If mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy". Ronda and I have talked about it, and we both have found it somewhat derogatory and sexist.
A 14 year research study in the UK took a look at this hypothesis and came up with some pretty interesting results. And some compelling implications.
Lavern & Ronda Nissley are co-directors of Encompass. Married since 1978, both enjoy coffee, riding their tandem bicycle and working together to build strong relationships.