A Very Healthy "unhealthy season"
By: Hollie Kowalski, Encompass Outreach Coordinator
My husband and I have been married 18 years and have never experienced a season quite like the one that we are currently coming out of. A severe, consistent head and neck pain (most likely the result of an injury from a previous surgery,) led the doctors to a “large, solid mass” on my thyroid. Every characteristic of the mass pointed to cancer. The meds I was on to alleviate (some) pain left me feeling fatigued and disoriented which made me incapable of driving. I guess this is why they added “through sickness and health” in the marriage vows because, WOW. THIS was a lot. With three very busy teenagers still at home, running a business, and our recent move, my husband had SO MUCH on his plate. With no clear end in sight, I began to wonder, “How would we navigate these uncharted waters, and did anyone happen to have five life vests?”
Video featuring Abby Glaser,
Encompass Community Advocate and her husband Eli
Increased or excessive cell phone usage can often cause conflict in a marriage or even leave your partner feeling unimportant and unwanted. Watch the video to see how Eli and Abby navigate cell phone usage in marriage and make their relationship a priority.
Encompass Connection Center helps couples learn how to start fresh and create fulfilling, productive relationships for years to come. We offer a free relationship assessment to determine your relationship’s strengths and potential threats. For additional help, look into our RINGS Experience, which includes marriage strengthening exercises and a coaching model to help build real intimacy and growth skills. We'll also help you to break those destructive patterns that may negatively impact generations.
By: Kermit Rowe, Encompass Relationship Facilitator
As a pastor who has performed countless wedding ceremonies, I’ve witnessed close-up the divine beauty of starry-eyed, committed couples making loving vows to each other and God that they intend to keep for a lifetime. It makes for lots of warm fuzzies and even more happy tears. However, working with struggling couples as a relationship coach for Encompass Connection Center, I’m convinced that they have been struck by a dreaded mental deficiency called “vow amnesia.”
It strikes without warning, often brought on by the onset of heated and/or unresolved conflict, difficult life challenges, situational disillusion, or flat-out bad moods. Momentarily taking leave of the macro view of their marriage, they give into the not-as-important-as-it-seems current disagreement. This leaves one wondering “Did I really say ‘I Do’ to ...”
Video featuring Drew and Sarah Brown
RINGS Experience course and coaching participants
Drew and Sarah have full lives with 6 young children. They face the daily challenge of making quality time for each other. While going through the RINGS Experience course they acquired a valuable connection tool, the RINGS Chat. But implementing it into their busy schedule was tough. And tiring.
But they adapted and adjusted to make it work given their context. The result: A potent legacy of a healthy marriage to pass along to each of their six children. Watch their story in a 3 minute video.
Lavern & Ronda Nissley are co-directors of Encompass. Married since 1978, both enjoy coffee, riding their tandem bicycle and working together to build strong relationships.