By Encompass Outreach Group
While sex is a topic that many people tend to avoid talking about openly, it is an important part of a marriage. It also presents many benefits for both you as an individual and your relationship as a whole. However, sex is different in each relationship and depends on the specific couple. Here are the reasons why sex is important in a marital relationship:
This is the most obvious benefit of having sex, but it’s true. Having sex feels good. Feeling pleasure is important for both you and your spouse and having sex is a way of getting pleasure together. It is even more enjoyable since you are sharing the experience.
Whether you and your spouse exercise a lot or not, physical health is important for both of your bodies and therefore, for your relationship. Sex is a good way to get some light exercise and, even better, you can do it together. Having sex is beneficial for heart health, immune health, and reducing pain, like headaches and cramps.
Having sex is also good for your mental health, which is beneficial to the relationship you and your spouse have built. Since many issues arise in relationships from the way people act, perceive themselves, or project onto others, mental health is vital to a healthy relationship. Having sex with your spouse is a good way to boost your self-esteem and make you feel good about yourself (and your spouse). It also reduces stress which helps you be in a better mood and more caring toward your spouse.
Finally, one of the most important reasons why sex is important in a relationship is because it strengthens your relationship with your spouse and brings you closer. When you have sex with your spouse, you are showing that you trust them and are creating shared memories in the process. Having sex can also rekindle your romance and help to restore feelings that may have faded. When you have sex, your body releases oxytocin and dopamine, two hormones that help increase feelings of intimacy and connection.
Generally, having sex at least once a week will provide you and your spouse with many of these benefits in your relationship. However, as mentioned before, each relationship is different and each couple will have to determine what is best for their situation.
Encompass Connection Center helps couples learn how to resolve issues and create fulfilling, productive relationships. For many couples, that trouble stems from sex and intimacy. Just like any problem, however, issues with sex in a relationship can be fixed. We offer a free relationship assessment to determine your relationship’s strengths and potential threats. For more help, look into our RINGS Experience, which includes marriage strengthening exercises and a coaching model to help build real intimacy and growth skills.
Lavern & Ronda Nissley are co-directors of Encompass. Married since 1978, both enjoy coffee, riding their tandem bicycle and working together to build strong relationships.