By: Cindee Johnson, Relationship Coach
Are you making those holiday lists and checking them twice? What do you gift the kids? Your spouse? Friends? Family? All. Those. Lists. Yes, we are in the midst of the greatest gift-giving season of the year. Also, the most stressful...
It’s been nearly 13 years since our first two grandsons were born. This new Grandma quickly demonstrated how easy it is to buy, buy, buy THINGS for them. On holidays like Christmas and birthdays, the gifts from all sides of the family really stacked up. As two more grandsons arrived, my husband and I talked about ways we could create memories WITH our Grands, not just buy stuff FOR them. That’s why we began themed Birthday and Christmas Adventure Weekends that have become wonderful and fun experiences for the cousins and the grandparents to build memories together. Memories that will last.
Don’t get me wrong. I love gift giving. Finding just the right and most thoughtful gift for a friend or family member is very special to me. Yet, so many times I have found myself shopping simply to check another one off those lists! Have you been there, too? Scrolling through Amazon looking for the item that can be delivered the fastest?!?
Immersed in this season of giving, I am reminded more than ever that PRESENCE is one of the most valuable PRESENTS we can both give and receive. Did you know that in research with children who were asked what they most want from their parents, the top response consistently is time and attention? It’s not the latest video game system. It’s not the hottest new toy to hit the market. It is time and attention.
Spending our time connecting with family and friends in meaningful ways fills hearts and photo books with memories that last a lifetime, and I have found there’s no greater gift.
Are you feeling overwhelmed by the stressors of the season? Are these stressors affecting your relationships with family and friends? If you’re looking for guidance and growth in your relationship or parenting abilities, get in touch with a knowledgeable and sincere advocate or coach at Encompass Connection center by following the links below.
Lavern & Ronda Nissley are co-directors of Encompass. Married since 1978, both enjoy coffee, riding their tandem bicycle and working together to build strong relationships.