By Lavern Nissley
Encompass Executive Director
April is known for its showers that produce flowers in May. So our blog posts this month will focus upon "Showers of . . ." as it relates to healthy relationships.
Loss, grief, and sadness are a fact of life. Not something we can get away from. It can have a profound negative and debilitating effect upon us as individuals, but also upon relationships with others. What are some grief tips that we can implement to promote relationship health?
My younger brother, Ken, who lives in Indianapolis, lost his wife, Terri, to breast cancer last December 26 after 33 years of marriage. She passed in the hospital at 1:44 am after a valiant struggle (Ken believes) NOT to die on Christmas Day. His notification call to me that next morning is unforgettable.
My much younger sister, Karen, from Austin, Texas and I have been in an ongoing text thread along with Ken dating back months before Terri passed. And we've continued in the months since. It's given all of us some definite handles to reference best practices when the showers of grief pass over us. Here are 2 "don'ts" and 2 "do's".
Hospice and GriefShare have many wonderful tips and resources to help those who are recently affected by loss. We hope your experiences with grief (your own and those around you) are occasions for strengthening rather than weakening relationships. We're here to help or direct you to those who can.
Lavern & Ronda Nissley are co-directors of Encompass. Married since 1978, both enjoy coffee, riding their tandem bicycle and working together to build strong relationships.