By Abby Glaser
I read a fantastic article this week addressing how to talk to someone experiencing crisis. I encourage you to read the whole article. It explains something called “Ring Theory”.
The gist of it is that the person experiencing the crisis is the center of the ring. The next circle is the individuals closest to them, often spouses, partners and immediate family. Each ring moving out from the circle represents how close to the crisis people are.
The person in the center of the ring can say anything they want. For each corresponding ring, the individuals can share honestly with anyone outside their personal ring but not inside. For those in a “smaller ring” than ourselves, our role is to listen and support. What the article didn’t dive into much was “How do I do that?”
Let’s start with a few tips of what NOT to say to someone experiencing crisis!
So what should you do to support and listen?
These are just some starting points on how to help someone dealing with a crisis but hopefully they are a good first step in loving and supporting someone struggling!
Lavern & Ronda Nissley are co-directors of Encompass. Married since 1978, both enjoy coffee, riding their tandem bicycle and working together to build strong relationships.