By Lavern Nissley
I've never been a fan of the saying, "If mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy". Ronda and I have talked about it, and we both have found it somewhat derogatory and sexist.
A 14 year research study in the UK took a look at this hypothesis and came up with some pretty interesting results. And some compelling implications.
Harry Benson, Marriage Foundation, and Steve McKay, University of Lincoln, used data from the Millenium Cohort Study to look at up to 13,000 families who had children in the years 2000 or 2001.
Both moms and dads were asked "How happy are you in your relationship" when their child was 9 months old. Follow up questions continued as well as looking to see how families turned out when the children were 14 years old. You could read the 8 page technical study with all kinds of charts and graphs, statistical data and hard to understand researcher lingo. (We've provided a button link to it at the bottom of this post.)
But, we'll spare you the effort to share two major conclusions that you can easily understand.
However, female satisfaction is a more significant factor in staying together and child mental health well being than the following:
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Lavern & Ronda Nissley are co-directors of Encompass. Married since 1978, both enjoy coffee, riding their tandem bicycle and working together to build strong relationships.