By: Hollie Kowalski, Encompass Outreach Coordinator
At first, I thought it had to be an error. After triple checking my planner, I happily accepted it as our reality. A whole day off! No events, no appointments, no practices, no rushing! WOOHOO!! But, THEN my mind immediately goes to my to-do list: order groceries, hand wash the delicates, clean the bathroom, prepare a lesson for my small group, start planning next weeks schedule, shop for Easter baskets… Ugh! (Insert hand over face emoji here.) My brain needs an “off” switch!
I have always been very task/goal oriented. I enjoy having a tangible list with a number of attainable daily/weekly/monthly, even yearly tasks/goals to complete. As I check off each one, I feel accomplished; proud of myself for being productive and meeting or exceeding goals. I just love to see those check marks stack up! I can get a bit carried away with this process at times though, becoming too focused on the tasks that lie before me. My view turns to tunnel vision quickly- so much so, that I get irritable or lose sleep when I feel a lack of productivity or achievement, when I’ve gotten off track, or when I’m left with an unmet goal. I have a tendency to miss out on some of life’s current joys because I’m consumed with my task at hand.
I know it’s not healthy, so I pray that I am able to prioritize, focus on what’s truly important, and be “IN” the moment. The scripture that comes to mind: “I came that they may have life and have it abundantly.” (John 10:10) What a great reminder. An “abundant life.” ABUNDANCE signifies a contrast to feelings of lack, emptiness, and dissatisfaction. God wants us to feel “full,” satisfied, and at peace in our lives. I know that my relationships thrive when I am feeling “full” and at peace. So, in the midst of this very busy life, I’m learning to make my lists a bit “leaner,” and be more flexible with the expectations I set for myself. Things happen. We get off course sometimes. Some tasks/goals take longer to achieve, and others… well, they get taken off the list altogether and THAT’S OK.
Here's how to become a bit more flexible concerning self-expectations:
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Lavern & Ronda Nissley are co-directors of Encompass. Married since 1978, both enjoy coffee, riding their tandem bicycle and working together to build strong relationships.