By: Hollie Kowalski
Encompass Outreach Coordinator
We spend 70-80% of our day engaged in some form of communication. 55% of that time is generally devoted to listening. The average person who has not worked to develop good listening skills will only remember about half of any recent conversation. 48 hours after the conversation, they are likely to only remember 25% or less… and then there’s me. My “working mom brain” has so many “open tabs” at any given time, I consider it a win if I remember my own children’s names on a daily basis.
Because of the “coordinated chaos” in my head sometimes, I tend to “drift” when conversing with my husband-especially in the evening after a long day. We don’t have much time together during the week and I always want him to feel that he is important, that I value his thoughts and emotions. So…
As we dive deeper into the importance of good communication this month, I wanted to find out more about being a better active listener. Active listening requires listening attentively, understanding what is being said, being able to respond, reflect, and retain the information. Being a better active listener will keep both my husband and I actively engaged in the conversation and will keep our intimacy and connection strong.
To become a better active listener, I will:
When my husband feels appreciated, he thrives. I’m willing to put the work in to become a better listener. Are you?
Lavern & Ronda Nissley are co-directors of Encompass. Married since 1978, both enjoy coffee, riding their tandem bicycle and working together to build strong relationships.