By Lavern Nissley
You've heard of The Five Love Languages, right? By Dr. Gary Chapman? Quality time, acts of service, gifts, words of affirmation and physical touch. These are types of love "deposits" into people's hearts.
But what about when we make "withdrawals" through intentional or unintentional offenses? Are there also "languages of apology"? Yes! There are! And by the same author!
The Five Languages of Apology by Gary Chapman and Jennifer Thomas explores how one prefers to experience an apology from someone who has offended you. And by the way, we've all been offended as well as committed offenses. I estimate my offenses of Ronda, my wife, to be in the thousands!
So here are the five languages of apology:
Take some time to reflect personally with one other person today, each sharing your preferences. And if you know you've offended someone, apologize sincerely, perhaps even using all five languages to cover the bases!
"I am SO sorry for hurting you. What I did was wrong. Anything I can do to make this right for you? I value our relationship and don't want this to happen again. Will you forgive me?"
Lavern & Ronda Nissley are co-directors of Encompass. Married since 1978, both enjoy coffee, riding their tandem bicycle and working together to build strong relationships.