3 Ways to Speak my Love Language: Quality Time

The Encompass Outreach Group is going through a blog series on the 5 Love Languages!  Over the next few weeks we will be focusing on different love languages, the impact they have on our lives, and how we can fill others' "love tanks!"

By Abby Glaser (Client Advocate)

​In case you didn’t notice from the title… my primary love language is quality time! I feel most loved by spending time with others. Ironically, I am also an introvert so spending too much time with others is draining for me emotionally! Because of those two conflicting qualities I would like to offer a few tips on how to best love someone with quality time! 

• Quality time needs to be one on one or in a small group. I thrive on one on one time with someone I love! The great thing is that it doesn’t need to be a romantic date or special event… simply running errands together or grabbing coffee fills my love tank!
• Quality time needs to be uninterrupted. In order to feel truly connected I need little to NO distractions or interruptions. This includes phones! Quality time often looks like watching a movie or show together after our kids are in bed and I need my husband to not be looking at this phone while we do so! I need to feel that his attention is on us and not his phone. In the same way I try hard to not look at my phone when we are driving together as that makes him feel that I’m not giving him my attention!
• Quality time as a love language means I need to feel prioritized by my husband’s time. While I don’t need to be his center of attention at all times, I do need to feel that I come before everything else. Often that means things like working hard to be home for dinner most nights. When he prioritizes me with his time I feel loved!

 
According to Dr. Gary Chapman every person has a "love tank" that is filled up when others "speak their love language".  Encompass Connection Center offers a free survey to help couples determine their love languages.  What are yours?  

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