Many people assume strong marriages are built on big moments. 
 Anniversary trips. 
Romantic surprises. 
Memorable celebrations. 
 While those moments are meaningful, they rarely determine the long-term health of a relationship. 
More often, the strength of a marriage is shaped by something far less dramatic: the small habits couples practice every day. 
 Healthy marriages are not built primarily through occasional grand gestures. They are built through consistent patterns of attention, kindness, and connection that accumulate over time. 
 
In other words, strong marriages are usually the result of small moments repeated faithfully. 

It is one of the most common phrases couples use: 
“We’re not fighting. We just feel like roommates.” 
There may be no dramatic conflict. No major betrayal. No obvious crisis. 
Just distance. 
A roommate marriage often develops gradually. Two people share responsibilities, schedules, and space—but not much emotional connection. Over time, the relationship becomes functional rather than fulfilling. 
If your marriage feels distant, you are not alone. And emotional connection in marriage can be rebuilt. ​

Most people schedule annual physical checkups. 
Very few people schedule a marriage checkup. 
Yet relationships rarely deteriorate overnight. More often, couples drift gradually—through busyness, stress, unspoken frustrations, or simple neglect. A regular relationship health assessment can help prevent that drift and strengthen your marriage intentionally. 
If you want a healthy marriage, it’s wise to pause occasionally and ask honest questions. 
Not to assign blame.
Not to create fear.
But to build awareness. 

Every couple argues. 
In fact, the absence of conflict is not usually a sign of health. It is often a sign of avoidance. The real issue in marriage is not whether you disagree. The real issue is whether you know how to handle conflict in a healthy way. 

The kids are long gone, living their own busy lives. The grandkids are getting older, not so cuddly and openly loving as they used to be. Medicare and retirement loom, and with them, big questions and concerns you never had to think much about before. You begin to face sobering and heart-heavy questions together when your marriage hits and passes the three-decade mark, like:

For many couples, the empty nest years arrive quietly—and then all at once. One day, your home is filled with backpacks, curfews, and constant motion; the next, the house is still, the calendar is open, and you and your spouse find yourselves looking at each other across the table, wondering, “So… now what?”

The holidays have a way of lighting up both the beauty and the rough edges of our relationships. We anticipate the traditions, the good food, the laughter, and the moments with people we love. But we also carry the awareness that the season can stir up tension—old frustrations, unrealistic expectations, or the simple weight of an overloaded schedule.

Probably the greatest danger of taking people or things for granted is that we lose our gratitude for them. Thankfulness is a theme that runs cover to cover through the Bible and is a cornerstone of nearly every moral belief system. Yet gratitude is an attitude that seems to be increasingly losing latitude in our culture. 

It’s the small things that make a marriage feel alive. A touch on the shoulder, a shared laugh over morning coffee, a quick check-in before bed — these moments may seem ordinary, but they’re what hold couples together over time.

Parenting is hard. Full stop! As a mom of five, I’ve done a lot of things well over the years—and made plenty of mistakes too. One of the hardest areas to navigate is parenting during conflict. Anger, frustration, exhaustion, and a dozen other emotions can bring out the worst in any of us. Let’s look at three common mistakes parents make in conflict—and some practical ways to fix them.​

We are living in what experts are calling an epidemic of disconnection. 

Why relationship skills are the new mental health crisis response.

A secure marriage doesn’t just make life better for two people; it creates stability, confidence, and hope for the next generation. ​

“When not recognized and broken, generational curses can destroy marriages and families.”

That statement got my attention—and it has kept my attention ever since.

When we talk about strengthening families and communities, one concept consistently rises to the top: Responsible Fatherhood. But what does that really mean—and why is it so vital?

While it's not the only path to a fulfilling life, there’s something unique about marriage that other types of relationships can’t quite match. If you're wondering whether marriage is worth it or if it's just an old tradition, here’s why you should get married—and stay married. 

Between 2010 and 2015 the number of teens reporting feelings of uselessness and lack of joy increased 33 percent in large national surveys. Teen suicide attempts increased 23 percent while actual suicides between 13 to 18-year-olds increased 31 percent. A significant trend. What could account for such dramatic increases?

Anger. Fear. Sadness. Joy. Excitement. You've felt these emotions. All people do. But not all people know what to do with them. Want to know a master skill in understanding yourself and others?

If you've ever been in the presence of a masterful listener you feel quite different than when someone is preoccupied with talking about themselves. Is there anything we can do to listen better?

When things are going sideways in a relationship it is easy to focus on negatives, with what's going wrong. Much like gravity, such a focus pulls us downward and decreases our hope for improvement or restoration. Is there a better way to approach relationship challenges?

A six year study with newlyweds showed that those who remained together did this tip 86% of the time; those who divorced only did it 33% of the time. Want to know what it was?